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Or how I'm kind of hairy and I don't care if you are or not.
And no one else should either.


Rambling if you will, about body hair. And not very well put together at that.


The subject of body hair, in all it's forms on women, seems to be not a big body issue debate topic. Not one that I've come across, but maybe I just haven't seen it. It's probably there amongst all the other loads of body issues and projections done onto your body. Lost among the airbrushing, dieting overkill wash of TV and magazine advertisements that we just get everyday.

But it's there.

It's on TV all the time and just like everything they tell you that you should be as a woman, it using words and images to let you know that this is how you need to look to be attractive as a woman.

"I'm your Venus, I'm your power, Your desire"

For shaving. If you shave, not only will you become like the goddess Venus, a sexual attractive being wanted by all. Poetry and art has been created around this single idea and form. But you are empowered for it. If you don't shave, well that's just the opposite.

"It gets closer so you can get closer."

Because no one wants to get close to someone with body hair? Hm. Yes. That in order to be intimate with someone you need to take care of your hair and remove it.

Advertising is a problem, but the way people think? Sometimes others things like porn take a big play on that.

Example from texts from last night.:

"apparently he was unaware pussies come in unshaved form. curse you redtube and your unholy lies"

There are two things here.

1. The assumptions that all vagina's are hairless all the time. That they have always been this way and always will be. If not, something is wrong with them.

2. Pornography tells lies about women. But pornography tells the truth about men.

This is brought to a blinding brightness with the comments that follow. One of the the top rated comments saying:

"apparently she was unaware pussies shouldn't come in unshaved form."

Emphasis added. Because really? They shouldn't? Culture has taught us that you have to shave you do not have a choice Otherwise you are unattractive and unkempt. That it is gross to have hair down there. And porn has taught men that all women shave, should have, have to shave. At least all women that you will want to have sex with, or should have sex with.

This is where society and porn have turned shaving, which is a choice and made it a standard.

How many times do you look at a girl with stubble on her legs and think (or even heard someone say), "didn't she have time to shave that?" or armpits too. I've heard girls make excuses, "Oh, I worn a long sleeve because I didn't have time to shave my armpits." or "I don't want to wear a skirt because that would mean I would have to shave." I have to shave. Not I want to shave.

It's become a body shame issue. You cannot, at any time, show any hair that is not on your head or face. Better just be your scalp and eyebrows too, but that little bit of upper lip hair? That is an even bigger no-no. That one hair that sticks out of your chin you pluck that out right this minute.

Because you cannot be seen this way with out being judged for it and all attractive women shave, it's just the way things are.

I am, by choice, a random shaver. I shave sometimes and other times I don't. It has nothing to do with what I'm wearing or if I am with someone. If their biggest issue with me is body hair that is their issue not mine. They do not have to like my body hair, that's their preference. But I am not going to change that because it's what they want. If and when I feel like changing that, I will. But if someone asks me, and they have, to shave for them. For sex or just my legs when we go out. It's a no.

Why? Because I don't think it's "icky" or "unhygienic" or "manly".

Because you don't ask a girl to change her hair color because it's not your preference. Or her shoes and cloths and make-up. You don't start asking her to change the way she talks, where she works or what she eats. You as a person, make your own personal decisions for a reason, because it's who and what you are. Someones preference should not make you feel as though you have to do something different.

If you want to shave, by all means do. I'm not concerned about who shaves their vagina and who has a hairy bush. If your legs are smooth or if you have hairy armpits. I'm concerned that people think women need to shave and that if you don't? You are not a goddess among the long tan legs of every ad out there. That you are, as I've been told,

"a dirty hippie"

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